Recently I have been assisting my former tutor, and now my very good friend, Adam Eason in teaching his Hypnotherapy students. Sitting there in that hotel function room, which Adam has used for years, brought back lots of memories from when I was one of those students. Remembering that first day, excited, nervous and a lot of self doubt ‘ Can I really do this thing?’
I wasn’t the only one having those thoughts, all my fellow students agreed they had had very similar feelings - only much later on did they admit this!
Self doubt can actually be really useful to us, having that little bit of doubt helps stop us making rash or foolish choices and helps us pinpoint when we can learn and develop personally. However, too much self doubt can stop us taking steps that may seem difficult or a little risky but could be of huge benefit to us.
Let me give you an example. At the end of the final tuition block of my own training, we had all learnt so much and were excited to get on, finish our homework, do our studies and qualify as Clinical Hypnotherapists. My course-mates had been awesome, I’d made life long friends and I was dazzled by their talent - and considered myself the dunce of the group. I was worried that I could never match up to both my own expectations and those Adam insists on and expects from his students, and I that would never be as good as my fabulous course-mates.
I wallowed in my doubt and worry for a day or two and then thought - “OK, I really want to do this, I love hypnosis, hypnotherapy, I enjoy studying, I’m just going to have to work harder to get there” My self doubt served to help me see what I needed to do to get what I wanted. Now, looking back, I don’t think there was ever any need for me to have had those thoughts of inadequacy at all. Of course my fellow were students were awesome, we had awesome training. I was pretty good myself! We all have our own special things we really good at, and there some things that we can accept that others are always going to do better than we can. And that’s just fine. I am so pleased that I did work that bit harder, it’s served me very well in my now thriving Hypnotherapy practice.
Now I can look back, and I see some of the things I felt in the students I assist. It’s such a joy to see how they progress, from that moment when they very first introduce themselves to the group, the first hypnosis session...... to the day when they qualify, confident and so very competent.
Those us us who work with Adam and his students get to see then grow and develop and do brilliant things. Those same students don’t always see that in themselves. They are the lucky ones of course, they get loads of tuition and encouragement to realise just how good they are.
Do you know how good you are?
Imagine stepping outside of your body, watch yourself doing what ever it is that you doubt about yourself. Ask, can I do this better, what do I need to do, who could help me, who could I model to show me how to do it? Am I worrying about nothing?
And when you like what you see .... congratulate yourself and be very very proud.